Tuesday, November 29, 2011

Personal Narrative (Final Copy) -- Snow, Seatbelts, and Safety

Snow, Seatbelts, and Safety

Speeding down the highway, snow whipped past our car as we drove home away from Grandma’s house in Oregon. As we escaped the biting cold of the winter, our warm car provided a feeling that we were more accustomed to: the heat of Texas, our home. When it comes to vacations, my family was never much of the driving type; we preferred to travel comfortably by airplane, but only business class. But this time my parents, my 3 older brothers, my older sister, and I were crammed into our small van, and any open space we would have had was filled with luggage and presents from Christmas. Trying to obtain just a little extra room, all of us had taken off our seat belts. It’s not much of a surprise that everyone was annoyed with each other and attitudes were getting out of hand. Just as any other family, tempers and arguing seemed to take hold until Mom decided she had had enough. Wearing her quirky, red holiday sweater that was nothing short of tacky, she frantically waved her arms above her dirty-blonde hair, exclaiming, “kids! Just stop arguing! Turn on a movie and be quiet!” Fortunately, our car had a built-in TV so we each put on our wireless headsets and tuned each other out. “And Roark, you need to slow down. It’s dangerous on these roads.”

“Honey, we’ll be fine. We’ve got a schedule to keep.” One thing that’s important to know about my dad: he’s stubborn, ridiculously stubborn. Once he has his mind set on something, he’s not changing. You wouldn’t even need to personally know him and you’d still be able to assume he’s stubborn—his scraggly, brown beard and stern expression just about sum up his personality: unyielding. So given the weather outside, no seat belts, and Dad’s stubbornness, it’s safe to say that our family was far from safe.

Things seemed to settle down nicely as we all watched Emperor’s New Groove. My wireless headset was uncomfortably tight on my ears so I pulled it off to adjust it. Once my headset was off, tuning everyone else out was hard and I couldn’t help but listen to what my mom was saying to my dad. “Roark, you really need to slow down. Look outside, it’s not safe.” Gazing out the window, I noticed that the snow had picked up and our car was now drowning in a sea of swirling white flakes.

“Sweetheart, I’m telling you,” my dad expressed in a hushed tone, “it’s not that icy outside.” My dad’s confidence worried me. Coming from Texas, I didn’t feel comfortable driving at this speed through a blizzard. I don’t like to interject when my dad and mom are arguing, but I couldn’t help it. I was scared.

“Dad, I really think you should slow down. I can’t see further than 10 feet in front of the car,” I added.

“It’s alright. I can drive through snow,” my dad reassured me. “Nothing’s going to happen. Go back to watching the movie.” Knowing that there was nothing I could say that would change my dad’s mind, I put my adjusted headphones back over my ears and once again escaped to my own world.

“Roark! Roark! Roark!” My mom’s screeches broke through my headset, pulling me out of my world and back into the car. Looking outside, there was no road, and trees were directly in front of us. That’s weird, I thought. Why are we driving towards trees? Then I realized it, we were sliding sideways down the highway. The car kept turning until we were drifting backwards, facing the wrong way. In a frantic effort to get the car back to going straight, my dad whipped the other way on the wheel. The car spun all the way back around; it worked! Only too well though, as the car spun to the side again, but this time throwing us off the road. We tumbled down a small hill, only to get thrown up the other side of a bank. With so much momentum, our car barrel rolled up the bank until gravity pulled us back down, twisting us to a stop on our side. Because we hadn’t been wearing seat belts, we immediately crawled out of broken windows, and our family gathered on the side of the road. As we got out of the car my mom would grab each of us individually, asking, “are you alright?” Everyone was fine but no matter what response we gave her, she kept repeating, “oh, it’s because you’re in shock! You don’t know if you’re alright.”

As we waited for roadside assistance to show up, we began to walk around the car to see the damage that had incurred. Walking to the side that I had been sitting on, I found my headset buried in the snow with the ear covers disconnected, barely held together by the inside’s flimsy wires. This headset had been situated on my head before we began to tumble up and down the bank. Next thing I knew, it had been ripped off my head by the window’s broken glass. Within a few minutes, roadside assistance showed up and asked how we were feeling. “Lucky for you guys, I see accidents like these every day. Let’s get you guys somewhere where you can stay the night.” We piled into his large, white car as he took us to a small town called Willowpoke about 15 minutes away.

Climbing out of the roadside assistance’s car, we stopped outside the car door and stared at the run-down motel we would be staying in for the night. My dad sprinted off to the reception desk to get us a room; well… I say he sprinted because he was putting in the same effort that it takes to sprint. To be honest, he had more of a nice jog, which was still the fastest I’ve ever seen him move. Standing in the freezing wind in just a short sleeve shirt and no coat on to keep away the cold, I was surprisingly warm. Noticing that my coat had been left back with the car, my mom was worried about me. “Oh, dear! Where is your coat? You’re probably freezing…”

“Nah, I’m good,” I responded nonchalantly.

“Oh my gosh! You’re still in shock! You can’t feel anything! You don’t know if you’re alright! You’ve probably got a bad cut somewhere and you’re bleeding to death! We need to…”

“Mom,” I interrupted, “I’m fine. Really.”

Finally, my dad came jogging back—not nearly fast enough. We walked into our motel room and I immediately called “first shower,” much to the dismay of my siblings. As I washed my body, a dirt stream seemed to flow continuously down my legs and into the drain; I had no idea I had gotten so much dirt from the accident. Inspecting my body for any cuts or major problems, I found that my mom couldn’t have been any further from wrong. I had maybe three scratches on my hand—the kind of scratches that a 2 year-old comes running into the house for, crying to mommy that they need a Band-Aid. I couldn’t have been any luckier; not wearing a seat belt was a stupid mistake.

“Alright, everybody out of the house. I’m setting the alarm,” my dad yelled down the hall. Grabbing our suitcases, our family pushed out the door of our home and loaded our baggage into the yellow taxi waiting outside. We were headed to Grandma’s house in Oregon again, but this time by flying. It took some persuading from my mom, but Dad finally gave in unexpectedly and agreed that we wouldn’t drive there like last Christmas. Situating ourselves into the taxi, Mom buckled her seatbelt in the captain seat and then turned around, checking to make sure that we had all done the same. Recognizing what my mom was looking for, I pointed down at my seatbelt and smiled at her.

“Mom, you don’t need to worry about me… I haven’t missed one day of putting on my seatbelt since the accident—and I don’t think I ever will.”

Personal Narrative

Speeding down the highway, snow whipped past our car as we drove home away from Grandma’s house in Oregon. As we escaped the biting cold of the winter, our warm car provided a feeling that we were more accustomed to: the heat of Texas, our home. When it comes to vacations, my family was never much of the driving type; we preferred to travel comfortably by airplane, but only business class. But this time my parents, my 3 older brothers, my older sister, and I were crammed into our small van, and any open space we would have had was filled with luggage and presents from Christmas. Trying to obtain just a little extra room, all of us had taken off our seat belts. It’s not much of a surprise that everyone was annoyed with each other and attitudes were getting out of hand. Just as any other family, tempers and arguing seemed to take hold until mom decided she had had enough. “Kids! Just stop arguing! Turn on a movie and be quiet!” Fortunately, our car had a built-in TV so we each put on our wireless headsets and tuned each other out. “And Roark, you need to slow down. It’s dangerous on these roads.”

“Honey, we’ll be fine. We’ve got a schedule to keep.” One thing that’s important to know about my dad: he’s stubborn, ridiculously stubborn. Once he has his mind set on something, he’s not changing. So given the weather outside, no seat belts, and Dad’s stubbornness, it’s safe to say that our family was far from safe.

Things seemed to settle down nicely as we all watched Emperor’s New Groove. My wireless headset was uncomfortably tight on my ears so I pulled it off to adjust it. Once my headset was off, tuning everyone else out was hard and I couldn’t help but listen to what my mom was saying to my dad. “Roark, you really need to slow down. Look outside, it’s not safe.” Gazing out the window, I noticed that the snow had picked up and our car was now drowning in a sea of swirling white flakes.

“Sweetheart, I’m telling you,” my dad expressed in a hushed tone, “it’s not that icy outside.” My dad’s confidence worried me. Coming from Texas, I didn’t feel comfortable driving at this speed through a blizzard. I don’t like to interject when my dad and mom are arguing, but I couldn’t help it. I was scared.

“Dad, I really think you should slow down. I can’t see further than 10 feet in front of the car,” I added.

“It’s alright. I can drive through snow,” my dad reassured me. “Nothing’s going to happen. Go back to watching the movie.” Knowing that there was nothing I could say that would change my dad’s mind, I put my adjusted headphones back over my ears and once again escaped to my own world.

“Roark! Roark! Roark!” My mom’s screeches broke through my headset, pulling me out of my world and back into the car. Looking outside, there was no road and trees, were directly in front of us. “That’s weird,” I thought. “Why are driving towards trees?” Then I realized it, we were sliding sideways down the highway. The car kept turning until we were drifting backwards, facing the wrong way. In a frantic effort to get the car back to going straight, my dad whipped the other way on the wheel. The car spun all the way back around; it worked! Only too well though, as the car spun to the side again, but this time throwing us off the road. We tumbled down a small hill, only to get thrown up the other side of a bank. With so much momentum, our car barrel rolled up the bank until gravity pulled us back down, twisting us to a stop on our side. Because we hadn’t been wearing seat belts, we immediately crawled out of broken windows, and our family gathered on the side of the road. As we got out of the car my mom would grab each of us individually, asking, “are you alright?” Everyone was fine but no matter what response we gave her, she kept repeating, “oh, it’s because you’re in shock! You don’t know if you’re alright.”

As we waited for roadside assistance to show up, we began to walk around the car to see the damage that had incurred. Walking to the side that I had been sitting on, I found my headset buried in the snow with the ear covers disconnected, barely held together by the inside’s flimsy wires. This headset had been situated on my head before we began to tumble up and down the bank. Next thing I knew, it had been ripped off my head by the window’s broken glass. Within a few minutes, roadside assistance showed up and asked how we were feeling. “Lucky for you guys, I see accidents like these every day. Let’s get you guys somewhere where you can stay the night.” We piled into his large car as he took us to a small town called Willowpoke about 15 minutes away.

Monday, November 28, 2011

Thanksgiving Break

After a long and gruesome semester, I have finally had a break. Although the semester isn't over quite yet, it is safe to say that this break may have been the only thing that is really keeping me going. I used to live in Dallas but when I moved up to Utah to come to BYU, my parents decided to move up here also. We currently have our house being built in South Jordan, near Salt Lake City. Although I didn't get the chance to go back to Dallas to see all of my high school friends for maybe the last time ever, it was nice being able to see my family and a little weird to call Utah my home. With all of the school work that I have been forcing myself through these last few weeks, my brain was fried, and I couldn't have thought of any better way to relax than to spend some time with my family. Thinking on all of the great times that I've had with my family has really made me realize the amount of time I have left before I'll be gone on a mission. A mission is a wonderful opportunity that I have as a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints to spread the gospel and share the love of Jesus Christ with all of Heavenly Father's children. With the passing of this Thanksgiving, I will not be able to spend another Thanksgiving with my family for another 3 years. On top of that, I know that this Christmas will be the last time that I am able to spend that holiday with my family for 3 years also. Although this can be very sad to think about, I can't express how thankful I am for such a loving family and all of the great experiences I've had with them. The only thing I am able to say is that I am grateful for all of the blessings that are daily evident in my life. I know that my Heavenly Father loves me and that as a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day saints, I have the opportunity to share His gospel and help others understand His love for them also.

Thursday, November 17, 2011

Trusting in God

As this week has played out and I have made an extra effort to keep up with reading the scriptures and saying my prayers, I have realized some amazing things. In past weeks, my Calculus tests have been getting the better of me. As I stress over how I can prepare for them, I've found that my scripture reading and daily prayer has really slacked. With this realization, I decided that this week I would take the time out of my studying to make sure that I read the scriptures and pray. As I have made the extra effort to do so, I know that it has become easier for me to do well throughout this week. It seems as if I have had more time than I usually would. As I prepared for this next Calculus test, I also promised myself that I would say a prayer before taking it. After saying a prayer, I started the test, believing that I would be able to remember all of the things that I had studied. I'm pleased to say that I have seen a miracle in my life. I remembered everything and will easily get the grade that I need on this test. After all is said and done though, it was not because of me that I have done well on this test. I may have put in the effort to study for it, but God is ultimately the one that has made it possible for me to do well. From this experience, I have learned my lesson that I must trust in God and do my best to not forget him, no matter how stressful my week may become.

Tuesday, November 15, 2011

HERE IT COMES!!!!!

With all of the stress I dealt with last week, I had a lot of difficulty making sure that I kept up with the spiritual things in my life like reading the scriptures. Looking back on mistakes that I made last week, I am ready to tackle this week with more trust in God and his plan for me. Starting with yesterday, I have a goal to not miss one day of reading the scriptures for this week. Although this week isn't quite as stressful as the week before, I still have a lot going and it's going to take some dedication and motivation to make sure that I don't miss out on the blessings that come from reading the scriptures. After this week is over, I should be able to cruse through the semester until finals week. Knowing this helps me stay motivated, especially since part of next week will be Thanksgiving Break. Usually, my family doesn't get to go home for Thanksgiving Break because our home was in Texas and it costs too much to go home for 4 days. This won't be the case for this Thanksgiving Break though because my family moved up to Utah in the last month. Because they now live within 40 minutes of BYU campus, I will be able to spend the holiday and break with them. With this in mind, I will be able to push through this week, focusing mostly on my scripture reading, daily prayer, and spiritual education.

Saturday, November 12, 2011

11:11:11 on 11-11-11

Where were you on this once in a century moment? Seeing as Friday was November 11, 2011, everyone was waiting for when the time hit 11:11 and 11 seconds. Unfortunately, as hard as I tried to be somewhere cool at the exact moment, I was unsuccessful. At 11:11am, I happened to be sitting through a lecture in one of my classes at BYU. And then at 11:11pm, I was waiting in line to get into a dance party; my luck couldn't have been any worse. Although this event and date has nothing at all to do with spiritual aspects of myself I try to progress and prepare for my mission, I thought it was noteworthy enough because it happens only once every century. Even without having anything memorable occur at 11:11 am and pm, I was able to spend my day with my friends. With so many bad influences around us in this world, it's important to have friends that share the same morals as you. If you are persistent enough, getting great friends like the ones I have will come easily. More so than any of the memories I could have gotten from 11-11-11, I will always be able to remember the friends that I was with on this day and the special relationships that I shared with each of them. My advice is to make sure that you appreciate and spend as much time with those friends that share the same standards as you; you'll have much more fun and memorable moments if you do.

Thursday, November 10, 2011

#20... The End of a Stressful Week

What better way is there to end this week than with a blog post? After over 20 hours in the library in just 3 days, my brain is fried. I've had to take two tests and write an 8 page research paper which added another 6 hours to my count. This week has probably been the most stressful week of my entire life. I had a lot on the line as school approaches the week before Thanksgiving Break. Although this next week will be pretty stressful also, it won't be nearly as bad what I have just experienced. This weekend, I plan to just relax and catch back up on sleep. If I'm able to, I'll spend some time to get ahead on the assignments that are due next week. In all that I have going next week, I must keep in mind that my spiritual education is just as important as what I learn in my classes. In order to make sure that I keep progressing spiritually in preparation for my mission, I must ensure that I don't forget to read my scriptures and say my prayers in the morning and at night. If I can make it through this week and successfully attain all of the grades I want in my classes, I will be able to enjoy my Thanksgiving Break that much more. Good luck to all of you that are in the same position I'm in!!

Tuesday, November 8, 2011

Stresses of School

This week, school has picked up more than it ever has before. With two tests and a research paper due on Thursday, it seems impossible that I will be able to make it through this week. As the semester begins to approach an end, it is now that I must be extra focused on my school work. The two tests that I have this week are for American Heritage and Physical Science, both of which I know I will need to put an obsessive amount of time studying for. On top of that, my research paper is due Thursday and must be at least 8 pages long. Looking at what this week holds for me, I have already begun to get stressed. It is at times like these where I will really be tested. I know that if I am to make it through this week, I must also take the time to continue my scripture reading. Throughout this semester, I have gained the habit to slack on my diligence in this area because of all the late night studying I have to do. This week though, I have made the goal to not miss one night of studying my scriptures I go to bed. This is very important because I know that it is only through the help of my Heavenly Father that I will be able to successfully receive the grades that I want on the tests for my classes. The lesson that I've learned from the past is that no matter how stressful school gets, I must always make the time to study the scriptures and keep the spirit with me.

Saturday, November 5, 2011

Blessings

Every day we are blessed with all sorts of talents, experiences, friendships, and fun. The hardest thing about these blessings is recognizing them. Occasionally, I'll take a step back and look at all of the things that my Heavenly Father has given to me; today was one of those days. Getting a meager 3 hours of sleep, I had to get up at 6am to go running. Thinking that this would be one of the hardest runs of my life, I was hesitant to even get up. Once I got started, I was amazed with the endurance I had. I take no credit any talent I have when it comes to running; I realized today that my Heavenly Father has blessed me with the ability to run for long periods of time. As I train for a marathon I plan on doing in April, I ran 17 miles today and can't thank God enough for the gift he has given me. On top of that, I planned a bike ride down to Utah lake with some friends. In total, the bike ride took 2 hours. Usually I would look at experiences like this I just think that it was fun, but in this specific instance, I couldn't help but feel thankful for the wonderful friends I have made here at BYU. Being in such a positive environment like I have here has really helped me realize just how lucky I am to constantly be surrounded by other college students that have the same morals as me. I know that in the world today, most college students do not have the standards to refrain from habits that will only ruin there lives. Both the gifts I have been blessed with and the friends I have made are true examples of the love my Father has for me. Finally, tomorrow I will have the opportunity to receive my Patriarchal Blessing. I have been waiting for this day for quite a while now and now that it's here, I have really begun to understand its importance. This, along with everything else I have been given, is proof my Heavenly Father loves me.

Thursday, November 3, 2011

Pressures of College

With all of the midterms that I've been taking these last few weeks, my life has become extremely stressful. One thing you need to know about me is that I'm very grade oriented so when there's a possibility that I may get anything other than an "A" in a class, I begin to get stress. With several of my classes this semester, I'm sitting on the edge of either getting an "A" or an "A-" and I've started to become obsessive. Although it's not necessarily bad to be so grade oriented, I often think that my obsessive attitude could be detrimental to my success in future years. With applying to the Marriott School of Management at BYU in the future, I began to look at many of the requirements and average statistics for those who are accepted. Through my research, I found that many of those accepted are bilingual and international. I also found that the average GPA for those accepted is about 3.5; knowing this helps me gauge my standing against all of the other students who plan on applying for the Marriott School also. As I continue to plan my future and attempt to secure it in every way possible, determining information such as this will be very beneficial. On a side note, I've learned that planning my future has been very helpful, but at the same time, doing so must be done with care. I recommend that all individuals who know what they want to do in life should take the time to plan out the next few years of their lives and stick to those plans. It's important to make goals throughout our lives so that we know where we want to go.

Tuesday, November 1, 2011

President Monson

This week at the regular devotional put on every Tuesday, President Monson was the speaker. The news that President Thomas S. Monson was going to be the speaker was kept quiet until literally the day before he came. Because not very many people had heard anything about who would be the speaker until the day before, the news spread quickly that the Prophet would be speaking. With the sudden spread of the news, many people got excited enough that they camped out. Although I didn't camp out, I arrived an hour early to make sure that I still got some good seats. The place was packed within the 30 minutes before President Thomas S. Monson even entered the building. As soon as he came in, there was a feeling of respect that all of the college students gave to him. Having a living prophet today that helps us and guides us in many ways is such a blessing and having the opportunity to listen to him today is something that I'll never forget. There were many things that he said that really caught my attention and will demand for me to take action in the next few months before my mission. One of the first things that he stated that really caught my attention was that "we are not human beings having a spiritual experience. We are spiritual beings having a human experience." This statement really intrigued me because it helped me realize that I need to focus on the spiritual aspect of my life. Many quotes that I hear throughout my life must be twisted in order for me to get the most out of them, but this quote rang true to me the moment I heard it. Not only are we spiritual beings brought onto this Earth, it is our duty to make sure that we make the most out of our human experiences. An important challenge that President Monson issued to all of us is that we should read Moroni 10:4 and pray to know for ourselves if what we are reading is true. This is something that I've done before and have gained a witness of, but I know that I still have some work to do so accepting this challenge will be a great opportunity for me to grow spiritually. Lastly, President Monson quoted from The Lion King, saying, "Look inside yourself. You are more than what you have become." After hearing this, I knew that I have so much more potential than I realize. Even though I have become a certain way, I will always have the potential to become more and a better person than I currently am. I can't express how thankful I am to have had the opportunity to listen to President Thomas S. Monson in person, directly addressing the students of BYU.